Nope, I don't have a different view. But I do have a comment. Talent isn't the only thing that men fall in love with. I don't know if Trudie is or is not talented, neither do I know if Frances is. Quite frankly I don't care. Neither do I care about the sexploits of him, his wife or any of their other lovers. If it's true, I applaud her openess, if it isn't then like you I consider it shameless self-promotion. That peoples private lives gets press bugs me. Everybody has done something in their lives that they're not proud of or somehow is debaucherous or could otherwise be sensational; these things become somehow interesting to the populace at large for people who have some public notoreity for something unrelated? It's all crap. I don't blame the notorious people, I blame the mindless idiots that lap it all up. The only thing I care to hear about Sting is his music. That's it. He's a pop songwriter and musician, that's the news that's fit to print. And that includes giving money to the poor or saving the rainforest. F*cking fantastic for him, great that he does something wonderful with his millions ... but I don't care (though it makes me jealous). Why is it reported? On Fri, Mar 26, 2004 at 01:14:24AM +0100, Michele Piumini wrote:

Best for you if you find it funny, I don?t. I seriously doubt that all this is true in the first place: we can all claim to know Sting more than the ordinary fan, and I?d be surprised if I were the only one to find these revelations a heap of self-promoting crap by a woman who, despite the odd attempt to emerge as a movie actress/producer, is and will always be nothing but ?Sting?s wife?. But even if this is true, how very delicate of her. You know what? After reading (and translating) Broken Music, I am somehow sorry that Sting broke up with Frances Tomelty and married someone as Trudie. Before reading the book I only knew she was an actress, and I was so impressed to learn how Frances devoted all of herself to Sting, how she fought to open the doors of London?s record companies to him at the beginning of his career, how forgiving she was when Sting missed Joe?s birth, how she didn?t only rely on her husband?s growing fame but kept on working on her own career, how charming, generous and self-confident she always proved to be. We may learn about Trudie?s hidden qualities if Sting ever writes his second 25 years, but if we have to judge by what is apparent it seems that Sting is no exception to the rule: the best musicians have the least talented and intriguing wives (just think of Yoko Ono or the late Linda McCartney). I mean, Frances Tomelty, as Sting himself writes, is still an appreciated theatre and movie actress while to me Trudie?s name, no matter how hard I try to remember, is only associated to a ridiculous Italian film called ?Mamba?, which I only know because I am Italian and happened to come across it on TV many years ago, and to the Lakehouse Cookbook. She may have produced a couple of successful movies of late, but I hardly call that talent, I call it money-making. Any different views ;-)? Ciao! Michele

On 25-03-2004 11:39, "Jason_Daly@dell.com" <Jason_Daly@dell.com> wrote:

By JULIE MOULT

STING?S wife has revealed the sex-mad rocker loves raunchy swinging sessions.

And randy Trudie Styler said her hubby gets off on watching her getting it on with other women.

Trudie blew the lid off their sex life in a US radio show broadcast to millions ? telling host Howard Stern the couple visited seedy sex clubs.

Even famous shock jock Stern was taken aback when she told how the former Police frontman invited women home for threesomes.

She said: "It?s rock 'n' roll. Isn?t that what we?re supposed to do?"

When Stern asked: "Are you guys still swinging?", film producer Trudie replied: "Yeah. Big time, honey!"

And she confessed: "I?m European. We do all that stuff. We have a lot more fun than you guys."

Asked whether she minded seeing her husband with other women, Trudie said: "I don?t get jealous. He likes to go to these clubs where they all get naked. I just sort of hang out and talk to them."

She claimed they enjoyed a threesome in a sex club in 1996, saying: "It was in one of those German places where everyone is doing it."

Trudie explained they had picked up a girl for some kinky pleasure and when Stern asked: "Did she touch you?", the film producer replied "Of course she did."

Trudie admitted she was "turned on" by the steamy experience, saying: "I?m a very womanly woman."

Stern asked if she had taken Ecstasy and she replied: "I?ve done everything. I?ve been around the block and then some."

Stern?s sidekick Robin Quivers suggested 49-year-old Trudie did not realise what swinging actually meant.

But she replied: "Swinging is like wife-swopping. Of course, we?re doing it."

Cheeky Stern asked whether Sting would mind if Trudie slept with him.

She claimed: "He?ll probably want to take pictures. We don?t want to be legit. That?s boring."

Father-of-six Sting, 52, is famed for his outrageous sexploits.

He once told how he and Trudie, the mother of four of his children, indulged in seven-hour tantric sex sessions.

It is an Eastern mystical tradition which suggests that self-purification and long training can lead to almost magical powers.

He boasts that his yoga exercises mean he can make love for hours on end, saying: "I can stay aroused and keep myself in control.

"It?s Trudie?s pleasure that I can satisfy when I?m in such good shape. Mentally and physically, yoga keeps me fit.

"The whole secret behind tantric sex is making your stomach go as near to your spine as you can while still allowing you to breathe.

"That way you never lose control."

Sting has never been shy about talking about his sex life.

In the mid-90s he declared: "I?m 44 now but I feel fitter than ever.

"I can do things with my body now that I wasn?t able to do as a 20-year-old athlete.

"But it (sex) should never be rushed, ideally it should be for the woman to attain satisfaction, not the man.

"Most blokes make love for the shortest amount of time possible, but that isn?t really good for relationships."

I?m red-blooded and I can appreciate other women."

Sting, real name Gordon Sumner, once told pals he wanted to visit an S&M club in New York where visitors were chained to the walls and whipped.

For a recent birthday Trudie delighted her raunchy husband by presenting him with a video featuring her dressed in a sumptuous black evening gown, reclining on a bed.

She was surrounded by three toyboys hastily pulling on their clothes.

And in February last year Sting was spotted browsing in a Los Angeles sex shop.

He looked closely at a vibrating, remote control "love egg" and thought about buying a Diving Dolphin sex aid which promised to "arouse the emotions".

He eventually leaving the store empty-handed.

Sting and Trudie are one of Britain?s most high profile celebrity couples.

They mix in a world of A-listers and number Madonna and Guy Ritchie, Sir Elton John and David Furnish, Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin among their pals.

Trudie is known for her match-making abilities, her biggest success was setting up Guy and Madonna.

Sting said: "We?re famous for that one particular introduction and that gets translated as ?we throw these celebrity parties for people to match-make?.

"Well, we have friends, and some of them happen to be celebrities.

"In fact, celebrity is not something I?m particularly interested in."

The Newcastle-born singer has always been a hit with women.

His sister Angela recalls how her school pals often had crushes on him.

She said: "I think he noticed it ? he could not fail to, really."

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Dear Michele! As I said in my yesterday's post, I found Trudie's story quite funny. But after reading your post I realized that sometimes it's hard to hear something like that about an artist which you respect and love. So I thought you'd feel happy to read the fallowing! It's posted on sting.com forum too. Cheers, PB Trudie: I won't let Sting swing By Liz Jones, Evening Standard 26 March 2004 I would imagine that Sting choked on his organic boiled egg and soldiers yesterday as he opened the morning papers. Headlines like "Wife-swapping, we're for it" and "Sex and drugs and Sting" accompanied quotes from his wife Trudie Styler stating the couple enjoy kinky threesomes, that she and her husband are into swinging "big time, honey", and that, just for good measure, she is an ecstasy-taking lesbian on the side. Trudie Styler, fortunately, finds all the fuss rather funny. "I think it's fascinating that people take an interest in a middleaged married couple and what happens behind our closed front door," she says. "The idea that we are going at it like rabbits makes me smile, really. Sting was laughing his head off. They published a picture of him in a sex shop, which was supposed to prove what a perv he really is, but he was only in Hustler with my best friend Natalie buying me a Valentine's Day present. Look, we are very much in love, we have a wonderful physical married life, a great sex life, and we've never hidden that - and I count myself lucky that I am as much in love with my husband as I was 22 years ago." The stories came about after Styler's appearance on the notorious " shockjock" Howard Stern's radio show in New York. She went on air to promote her upcoming Save the Rainforest show at Carnegie Hall, something she has done for the past 10 years. "It's the same conversation year in, year out; it doesn't change. You play Howard Stern at his own game. I know the conversation was all pretty much on one level but I wanted to sell tickets. I was joking, for goodness' sake, and if you had listened to the show you would have known that. I said I was into boys, girls, cats, dogs ..." So she's not a lesbian then? "I love women, I have women friends but I'm definitely a heterosexual." And you don't swing, big time? She laughs. "No! Maybe we should spend more time at home in the countryside. I hear they do it more there because they get bored." Doesn't it annoy her that people think of her only as Sting's wife, a bit of a goer, when she is in fact a respected film producer (Lock, Stock and Two Smoking Barrels is one of her successes)? "I don't really mind that people think we are having wild Tantric sex in our Wiltshire mansion all the time because it is so far from the truth. The people who matter in my life know that it isn't so." But what about the accusations she has taken ecstasy? "That is totally made up. I like juices and antioxidants, I'm a health nut. I absolutely didn't say that." She gives me an example of how the press have managed to twist her relationship with Sting into something it is not. "They said yesterday that there is a recent dirty video tape that I made for my 'raunchy husband'. Let me tell you, 12 years ago, when Sting turned 40, he played the Hollywood Bowl, and lots of us were asked to record greetings for him, to be shown to the audience before he came on. I thought it would be hilarious if I got together with some of my male friends, and lay on my bed saying, 'Hello, darling, happy birthday. Sorry I can't be with you, it's so lonely when you're on the road,' and then the camera pans down to three of my mates putting on their trousers. It was harmless, totally." But you can't blame us for imagining them constantly having sex, twined like pretzels, for hours on end. Sting has always spoken about how "the whole secret behind Tantric sex is making your stomach go as near to your spine as you can while still allowing you to breathe. That way, you never lose control ..." Isn't it a bit boring when men do it for hours on end? Isn't Sting any good at a quickie? "He is, yes!" she yelps. After all that Ashtanga yoga (which they took up "after we gave birth to Coco, 13 years ago"), is Sting very bendy? "Yes, he is very bendy indeed for a 52-year-old. He is very healthy and very strong. He really is a wonderful person." She says there have been so many stories about their Tantric sex marathons and Ashtanga yoga sessions that "they have all got mixed up into one rather large, steamy pudding. Ashtanga yoga is a wellknown practice for keeping yourself fit and healthy. Yoga is good for my body. "Of course, approaching 50, I'm thinking about getting older, and the thing that worries me most is not being healthy. I eat organically where I can, I encourage my children to do the same, I take my daily regimen of yoga, which is an hour and a half, and I try to get eight hours sleep." She refuses, though, to go down the Hollywood route, and says she would never resort to plastic surgery just to keep Sting happy. "I don't feel I need it, to be honest, as I am largely a film producer and not an actress any more, and I'm a mother and a wife. When we are seen together in public, of course I want to look my best, but I don't bend over backwards to try to look 25." It must be hard, though, I venture, being married to a wealthy rock god. Don't younger women throw themselves at his feet all the time? I remember seeing Sting and Trudie in the front row of a Versace fashion show in Milan a couple of years ago, and as the likes of young Gisele Bundchen and Carmen Kass sashayed past with their spherical brown breasts, I could see Trudie hanging on desperately to her husband's arm as if he was filled with helium. "In the early days, when he was at the height of his career with The Police and we were spending much more time apart, it was a lot harder for me. I am, contrary to what the papers said yesterday about threesomes and voyeurism, a very possessive person. But now we are both so much older. We share everything, we talk about where we are in our marriage a lot and that dissolves a lot of stuff that could be negative." Styler just thinks she has been really, really lucky to spend her life with a man she loves. She has never thought of herself as a great beauty. When she was two-and-a-half, growing up on a council estate in a small village on the Worcester and Birmingham Canal, the daughter of a factory worker and a school dinner lady, she was knocked down by a van and spent a long time in hospital. Most of the injuries were to her face, and when she went to school she was ostracised because she looked different. Her best friend had a birthmark; Trudie was known as Scarface, her friend as Beetroot. Despite suffering from dyslexia, she got into grammar school, appeared in the school play and, after her mum had paid for her to have plastic surgery, gained a place at the Bristol Old Vic to study drama. She met Sting in the summer of 1977. He was a struggling musician living in a basement in Bayswater. She lived in a basement a few doors down. Sting was already married, to the actress Frances Tomelty, with whom he has two children, Joe and Kate. Trudie and Frances were friends. It was "complicated". Styler and Sting became lovers in 1982, and were married in 1992. "It has all come right for me in my later years," she says. "I have a wonderful family. Neither Sting nor I came from privileged backgrounds, but now we are so, so privileged. My children say, 'Oh mum, you look good,' and kids say what they think. Just having that amount of love in a family - I feel very fortunate." Her children - Mickey, who is 20 and paying her way through art school by modelling, Jake, 18, and Coco - are all "way more conservative than Sting and me. The children have never dabbled, they have never even smoked, and although we are very open with them we have always made sure they put school and work first," she says. "Mickey and I are like best friends. Sting is a great dad. Drugs and alcohol have never been taboo in our household so have never been an issue." She says the children used to blush when they were early teenagers and all the Tantric sex stories were in the papers, but now, "they all just have a good laugh about it. Their poor old mum and dad, at it again. They thought yesterday's stories were a real hoot." -----Original Message----- From: Michele Piumini [mailto:piumichele@yahoo.it] Sent: Friday, March 26, 2004 2:14 AM To: Police Mailing List Subject: [Police] Sting's wives Best for you if you find it funny, I don’t. I seriously doubt that all this is true in the first place: we can all claim to know Sting more than the ordinary fan, and I’d be surprised if I were the only one to find these revelations a heap of self-promoting crap by a woman who, despite the odd attempt to emerge as a movie actress/producer, is and will always be nothing but “Sting’s wife”. But even if this is true, how very delicate of her.