Author: BJ Rowley Date: To: 'AML Discussion List' New-Topics: [AML] MoTab Enquirer Gets Great Review Subject: RE: [AML] Curing pornography (was Do Violent Movies Increase Crime?)
D. Michael Martindale wrote:
They become pornography addicts because sex and the human body are
integral parts of our lives and our attention, but our society refuses
us any healthy outlets to satisfy this need. Our American culture only
offers up degraded servings of nudity and sex, and our Mormon culture
won't allow us to partake of any of it at all. Yet the human make-up
demands that we be preoccupied with it--sex is one of the most powerful
imperatives that exist among humans.
Powerful imperatives--no healthy outlets. The real question is, why
aren't more people addicted to pornography?
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But there IS a healthy outlet -- in the master bedroom.
The problem there is that, in many, many cases, women just plain don't
understand (or refuse to acknowledge) what a tremendously powerful NEED this
is for men (on the same level as eating regularly), and how their biological
makeup (meaning testosterone's overpowering influence) demands satisfaction
and fulfillment to sexual needs. Those needs CAN be met and fulfilled, and
in a healthy and safe environment.
I do a fireside for Young Women titled "What Makes Guys Tick" (and which I
have condensed and published in book form -- my literary tie-in). The focus
of the fireside/book is to present in an understandable yet somewhat frank
manner the role of hormones in both girls and boys -- the goal being to give
the girls at least a little understanding and insight into why boys are so
visually and physically inclined (compared to girls being so verbally and
emotionally inclined). I conclude with a big emphasis on being modest in
dress and behavior, and, of course, being morally clean.
The most surprising outcome of the firesides has been to see how many Young
Women LEADERS (most of whom are relatively young themselves) come up to me
afterwards, with this far-away, glazed-over look in their eyes, and say
something like, "Oh, I think I finally 'get' my husband. I had no idea."
Therein lies the problem.
Those of you who have been to a temple sealing (or who may be going in the
near future), you may want to pay particular attention to the fact that
during the bride's portion of the ceremony, she is asked (in other words
commanded) to "give" herself to her husband. The husband is not asked the
same. I think there's a very good reason for that being there.
